As humans with emotions and feelings, we cry when we feel pain, we scream when we are scared, and we smile when we are feeling happy. When we feel love we feel unexplainable happiness and joy and there is no other feeling like it.

These things are important to express because they are what make us human.

Love is a very complex thing. Many components come with it such as trust, understanding, caring about the other person. However, when someone breaks your heart, all the elements that made up your love for your significant other are broken too. This is probably why it is so hard to trust someone with your heart again after a relationship that ended badly.

I have seen many of my friends go through the same phases of heartbreak. They start liking someone, spend a lot of time with them, break up and then swear off love for a very long time.

Many people even start looking for attention in all the wrong places, trying to fill the gaping hole in their heart. This idea can be risky, since you may keep moving on to the wrong person just for the sake of having attention, leading to more temporary relationships in the future.

Of course, one may feel deep emotional pain after a breakup but they should not be afraid to let their heart love anyone again, after they heal. That relationship does not speak for the rest of “the fish in the sea”.

The importance of moving on is that you will learn more about yourself through dating others and will expand your relationships with new people. Throughout the dating experience, you can discover flaws about yourself, what others find great about you and you will learn what to do and what not to do in a healthy relationship.

Not just that, but just relish in the fact of being single for a while. Finally, there’s no one you have to spend money on, you don’t have to think about anniversary gifts, and you don’t have to look nice all the time. Take time for yourself to do leisure activities that you like to do.

Read a book, go hiking, bake some sweets, watch a movie. There is nothing wrong with not having someone (romantically) to share that experience with. If you enjoy it, then that is all that matters.

If you’ve only been in one relationship your whole life and it’s not going down the right path, you will have nothing to compare it to and will think that everything is going the way it should when the relationship between you and your significant other may actually be toxic.

Learning to forgive your significant other and yourself is also an important tool in a good relationship. Every relationship goes through problems and it is not an abnormal thing.
Many people have the misconception that forgiveness is saying, “What you did is OK,” but that is not what it is saying at all. Forgiveness means that despite what the other person did, you are ready to move forward and learn how to get past the rockiness of the issue. It is also just something that will make you personally feel relieved as well.

It needs to be understood that not every relationship will work out and that is OK. It is all just a part of life and, in time, you will heal and learn to open up again. The support of friends and family is important in any healing process.

Try to move on with your life by joining clubs or activities or just spend some time alone doing what you want. You will end up discovering the things you like and will explore so much of what you never imagined. Focus on the opportunities you have at that moment and what you can accomplish.

You do not need someone to “complete” you. If you need someone else to bring you the happiness that you should already have within yourself, then that is not the definition of a healthy relationship.

At the end of the day, we are just high schoolers. We are still young and have much of our lifetime left to do amazing things than to worry about such trivial matters like love. Focus on your studies, spend time with friends, and love your parents because you will miss them when you go away to college. There is no need to be distressed with the idea that you’ll never find someone again.

In time, the perfect one will come along and sweep you off your feet.