By Tolu Salako
Editorial Page Editor
“I just want to go to college to find a guy”.
My head made a 180 degree quick turn as I tried to find who exactly uttered those stupid words. “Go to college just to find a guy? Haven’t feminists around the world for years wanted girls not be so dependent on men?”
No, this is not a feminist rant, and I for one do not consider myself to be a very passionate feminist, but spoken phrases like these kind of make me just a tad bit disgusted.
Ever since I was young, my parents pushed me to try my hardest in life. They taught me the importance of having an independent character and to strive for the best. The sky is the limit in essence, and I certainly did not need a man to provide the ladder to reach them.
But then I hear girls my age talk about how after all their hard work they have been through at Coppell High School and the rigorous curriculum they underwent, they still want to be 100 percent dependent on men and major in something that is relatively useless.
Is it just pure laziness? I am still to this day not sure, but then I heard another spoken phrase that made me squirm in my seat.
I do not know if the female species is just getting more dependent or if it is just the people that I always seem to associate myself with are getting lazier, but as my senior year progresses, I still seem to find such girls that want to be so dependent on men later in life.
I listen to girls whine about how they do not want to have a challenging college experience and joke about how they will sit outside the life science building to find a potential boyfriend pursuing a medical career.
Why can these girls not strive to be obtain a higher goal? Why can girls not be on their own for X number of months without feeling insecure?
It surely is not the majority of females, but there is a significant portion that for some reason have this urge to always have to lean on guys. They want to have an easy college experience and hope men will pursue the harder degrees so they can swoop into their lives and feed off the fruit of their labor for the rest of their lives.
A part of me wants to assume that many girls are still struggling with an inferiority complex. Do girls still feel like they cannot amount to anything in life? Do they still believe that society looks down on them if a boy is not permanently by their side?
Whose fault is it?
It is not the guys, that’s for sure. “Girl power” has been enforced throughout society for years so girls should not feel obligated to conform to a man’s behavior. We cannot blame society for girls having this mindset that pursuing an MRS degree is fulfilling, it is their fault.
Some girls are getting lazy, and guys have merely become the scapegoats.
After spending thousands of dollars every year to pursue a degree in college, it is quite ridiculous that young women would be willing to waste four years of college and student loan money on pursuing a useless major for the sole purpose of finding a potential husband.
These young women need to rethink their priorities and be aware that men are not the only reason to attend a university. They need to aspire to achieve greater and more challenging majors and to understand that they can still have a fulfilling life regardless if there is a wedding ring on their finger by the time they receive a diploma.
